Have you ever woke up with your hair full of static – your mind is kind of in a frozen state – the world doesn’t look so scary today – you’re sick of being bullied by everything, mainly, yourself – but there is not an negative feeling anywhere in you. Calm!
You hear people talking – but it’s a Charlie Brown zombie moment, mwa-mwa mwa, mwha mwa-mwah. Today is the day you walk out on the pier and jump in! No, not to die, but to swim – and tackle every bull shit feeling that held you back in your life because suddenly you’re laughing at it all!
You don’t give a shit anymore, because finally you do! And it starts with you.
Happy Friday!!
We love this! (my friends read it with me) I love it! I want to give a crap about me now and I’m ready to jump in. Happy Friday Eforna Why is it so hard?
Hi Nicki,
Why is it so hard to give a shit about ourselves?
Well, one popular reason is that a person has little to no confidence in their own worth. Unfortunately, some actually punish themselves this way.
But I’ve also seen disorganization and confusion as a catalyst for misunderstanding where they fit in and how much they are supposed to give (It can stem from cultural beliefs)
I’ve seen people who absolutely know they deserve the best things in life, yet never finding time for themselves until they break down. They wonder why they didn’t pay more attention and it didn’t stem from self-abuse, but still took learning new habits to make the right changes.
Also, I’ve seen those who fall into the “It’s hard” to care for themselves because of financial difficulties. If you’re a mom of 3, and the income is low, it’s easy to give too much for your family and deprive yourself, but not due to low self-esteem. Before I got back on my feet after cancer, I made this mistake and I didn’t have resources to take care of me. I worried at times knowing I was spreading myself to thin, so my son would watch TV with me on Wednesday, our favorite show Merlin, and that was an amazing gift for me. He knew I’d give this time to him, but in reality, it was for me. Cool right.
I’m working too hard now as I build my business, finish my novels, market my journal, and build a good reputation again, but it’s due to excitement mixed with a need to support my family. My son reminded me tonight while we were out for dinner that I needed to do more for myself, it’s why we were out to dinner. (:
I’d have to ask you a couple of personal questions to really answer. Send me an email if you’re looking for a private answer. If you’re happy to share online, that’s good too.
My first question would be simple: In the past did you neglect yourself? And for what reason?
Haven’t been called Nicki since a while ago good memories there in the name. Again i love your answer, thanks a bunch, Efrona. I want ta write an email to continue if that’s okay. It’s too much to put in a thread of comments. yikes! Nicki! Oh and the shrimp tacos look great. yum yum.
Hey Nicki,
Absolutely, an email is super! I’ll read your email this evening. Thanks much for reaching out.
Cheers my sweet friend, it’s a great day,
Efrona