77 IN LOVE TEXT MESSAGES: “Love me like you do!”

Think about this, why would you ever want to stay with someone who doesn’t think about you when you’re gone? You wouldn’t!

These romantic love messages will wrap him or her heart with anticipation. … “You are not just my husband/ wife, you are my best friend, my confidant.” If your love is new or if you’re in a committed relationship, you’ll learn why you shouldn’t text about your random daily activities initially, what builds and test budding love, and about mindful communication as the foundation that builds that kind of love you really want.

Textings dwindles — but should it?

Unfortunately, I don’t know of one couple that doesn’t engage more initially, when the relationship is new. The anticipated sexy and attentive messages dwindle as the relationship grows. What if “dwindling” is a mistake? And what keeps him or her interested?

According to neuroscience, “in love” feelings can last decades. And forever is right there following. Would you like that? Then you’ll love this article.

One of the secrets according to science: includes mindful communication. Sound boring. Well get ready for real love, it has its boring moments, that’s why it’s love. So, it’s pretty damn cool to understand why some survive the difficult moments, and others don’t. Texting that special person in love text messages keeps things fun, exciting, encouraging, and playful for new or seasoned relationships.

Do you want to keep that person you love? It’s all about honesty.

Keeping him or her interested is not just about sexy talk! In fact that is short-lived. It’s building that strong bond that withstands the ugly days of bad hair, bad moods, sickness, tragedy, other interests. It’s about real things!

I love talking “relationship goals” with couples who’ve been together for 30+ years. They get it. And most will tell you, keep the magic flowing.

So, if long-term love includes more than impressing your lover with your great sexual abilities, what is the secret? First off, impressive sex is great and yeah, we want that, but even more important is building a life with that person.

It’s like this, lovers who are attentive, caring, spontaneous, but also, hit that button that makes you feel safe, accepted, and understood; these are the windfalls. These over the top people have learned the value of communication. They are the honest ones- and so should you be!

Relationships are complicated, yet simple. And there isn’t one on the planet where frustration doesn’t creep in. And sometimes it leads to distance even when you care about that person. Relationship advice will always revert to the “mindful communication” statement, and it’s spot-on, but in my experience, it remains at large between couples. Communication is the most unused skill we possess.

You want to keep that special person. Of course, you do, so you must learn how to build and test the relationship with honesty and confidence. That means allowing vulnerable moments to emerge from your dark place. That place where you were hurt, that place of rejection and fear, that place that stops you from being you.

It means developing long-term building blocks! Reinforcing Positive Habits for a great relationship.

Communication means getting to know and understand that person

I know you know what I’m talking about. It’s where you’re not just luring that other person with big red hearts, sex, promises of grandeur, but also promises to hold that person when they’re puking up the flu, or when they don’t want to go out when they look like shit, cry, yell or even do really stupid things.

How many women out there know sometimes the regretful upset only means they love you!

And how many men can say the absents of words is equal to the love they can’t articulate at that moment.

Women are strong, able to fight battles with cunning and protect their families above all things, but you break their heart and they will shout it out inside themselves, and sometimes erupt towards a man as if hate drives them – but beneath the pain is a plea for a man to get his act together.

Women stay, and men run. Ironically women may flee the room when upset, but they don’t flee the relationship. Where men don’t flee the room, but will the relationship!

Men too will fight a kingdom for a woman, and how many men run away if they feel they can’t please the woman they love the most. Or when they “feel” that the woman they love, doesn’t think they are good enough.

Communication baby!! Misunderstandings bring down the happy home, break up the perfect couple, and keep true lovers distant. We don’t need a plague to stop the world, just miscommunication!

Nothing is sexier to the guy than when he believes a woman will not judge him, expect a performance 24/7, and won’t mind having sex before dinner and then not going out. Communication. That’s you, his love, who should communicate to him that his wants and desires are okay. Tell him what you really feel.

That means if you stay home one night when you really preferred going out – and without doubt, you made love before dinner, that’s okay, you enjoyed every second. But he understands that next time he’s wining and dining you and after dinner, you’ll have a surprise for him and it won’t be your disappointment.

And nothing is sexier to a woman than a man who listens, talks, and understands her pain, love, excitement, and emotional rollercoaster. Communication. That means you the guy, you’ve got to tell her, talk to her about what you want, how you want it, and when, but as well, aks her what, how, and when she wants things in her life. Women don’t like silence. It screams you’ve changed your mind about her. Do you get it, silence says, you don’t like, want, or approve of her anymore. Communication in the smallest way builds trust.

And everyone is different. Some women don’t want messages all the time and neither do some men, but others, need them like emojis flowing on a belt. Communication. If you have interest, love, and attraction to this special person we’re talking about, then learn what it is they need. Don’t guess.

In love text messages” are cute and fun. Texting is a way to communicate, express to one another, and build long-term building blocks. It’s a door opener for new couples and a reminder for the seasoned.

Don’t send what doesn’t feel like you no matter what!

Sending flirty notions showing you care, are interested, are feeling sexy, should always be 100% you. They should not be what your best friends write for you, or even in this article, make sure you make the message your own. Change it, edit it, and own it. If it happens to be you, okay, but do not imagine that what you want to say is not good enough. It’s you this other person likes. Remember that.

Messages should include the things that also build and maintain your relationships with the edge of that deep dark vulnerability list you have under lock and key. That doesn’t mean discussing issues over text. No no and no. It means don’t be afraid of rejection, say what you feel.

It really doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together. These little notions are essential for all stages of relationships. They will evolve once they begin and become habitual.

Make love a habitual part of your life through communication

It’s your job to keep communication a habitual habit throughout your life together and it’s not that hard. According to Psych Central, “If you continue a pattern of being more generous and thoughtful toward your spouse, they’ll eventually say or do something as a response.”

You see, what you think about not only shifts what you’re able to give to another person and to yourself, it has a profound impact on your relationships old and new by stirring the creative passions with each text. Tell me you won’t be thinking about these in love text messages before, during, and after enough to live them in your mind. Of course, you will, and gladly.

Always remember, each of us has a huge say in how things will flow. Therefore, the kind of talk you engage in with your partner will impact your happiness.

Can you pick up milk?

The effort, of course, is fun and easy. Still, as couples go from new relationships into long-term, it’s quite easy to take each other for granted, and the fun, sexy texts that initially stirred the relationship turn into “can you pick up milk?”

If you’ve lost the spark, getting it back is easy and begins with communication and choosing your text to match your feelings. Send at least one text a day for the next month and see what comes your way. 

Remember, these In Love Text Messages are only examples. That is to say, create your own and surprise that special person. With these particular texts, they are not only fun but actually relationship builders with a touch of sexual antidotes. Indeed, they are the kind of things that make you want to love someone deeper.

Texts will reward you, and the foundation you build with these tiny stones will indeed be a strength in the future. It’s a simple balance of love and life. You give, you get!

I know a woman who asked for a divorce. Was quite sad because they were good together, happy for a long time, had a beautiful child, and loved each other to the brink of craziness. But they had not once in 6 years met for lunch, gone a weekend getaway, and texting love daily? Never past the first 3 years of their marriage. They missed a crucial part of loving each other. Sad right. The love was there, the passion and caring were there, but a poor balance broke them. It took years before the woman realized what happened. Now, her relationships are filled with her creative love.

The first rule in texting, don’t give new information over text!

The huge downside of texting is potential miscommunication!

Remember texting is the black hole of ambiguous misunderstandings!

Also, the time it takes for one to respond to a text should be considered. Texting, especially for new couples, is for brief fun, updates, where to meet, but long text connected to events in your day, might not be your best course of action. Refrain from sharing new information with your partner over text – particularly life-changing events, emotional thoughts of conflict, and so on.

Build solid feelings of trust before you create the opportunity to be disappointed. Example, you send your boyfriend some great news, but it takes him 4-8 hours to respond. Suddenly you get a shoutout of “woo hoo!” But in your mind, you’ve been waiting, wondering, and getting annoyed. It took 4 hours to say “woo hoo?”

Give your special person a chance, the best chance. Wait and look them in the eyes to give them new news. It’s fun, safe, and doesn’t bring in unwanted and undeserving suspicion.

Don’t worry the days of boredom when you’re married or committed will offer room for the life-changing texts. Just not too early.

77 In Love Text Messages

Notes:

1. Elizabeth Dorrance Hall Ph.D, Communicating Mindfully in Relationships
2. Randi Gunther, Ph.D, The Two Most Important Communication Skills
3. Psych Central, Erika Krull, MSEd, LMHP, Marriage Communication: 3 Common Mistakes and How To Fix Them